How do I tell my homeless friend I can't afford to help her anymore? | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER befriending a homeless lady five months ago I’ve been doing all I can to help her.

I feel so sorry for her but the more I give, the less I can afford.

I’m 45 and she is 39. We met when I stopped to give her some money outside a supermarket one day.

We ended up having a 30-minute conversation, and have since kept in touch by phone.

Now she regularly reaches out to ask for help – money for clothes, food or to pay her bills. She doesn’t really have anyone else.

Over the past few months I have given her quite a lot of money but now I’m starting to run short.

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I’ve had to start cutting costs and taking more and more money out of my savings.

I know that I really have been making a difference in her life. I just feel terrible that I may need to stop.

I don’t know how to say no. I fear that she will think I’m abandoning her but if I don’t, I’m worried that I won’t have enough money to live.


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DEIDRE SAYS: It is great that you have gone out of your way to provide so much support to this woman. But you are now becoming stressed about your own finances.

So, instead, help her in a more practical way.

You can help her find food through The Trussell Trust (

And for long-term housing solutions encourage her to contact Shelter (, 0808 800 4444).

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