I like a new guy but my ex is pressuring me to get back with him

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE just got back from the best weekend with an old school friend.

We lost touch for a few years but began talking again six months ago. We are both 25 and always fancied each other.

It was so good to see him and we have already admitted we have strong feelings for each other.

The problem is I’ve just come out of a very difficult relationship and my ex, who is 24, has been threatening to kill himself if I don’t take him back. He was aggressive during our relationship.

A few times he broke my possessions in temper and held me up against the wall, with his hands on my throat.

I feel bad that he is now on his own. He has no family and hardly any friends. So should I shut him out or try to help him and get back together with him?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Your ex was violent – for your own safety, please don’t get back together with him.

He needs professional help. The next time he contacts you, give him my support pack Abusive Partners which has information on where he can get help and will also help you get support.

Tell him firmly that if he feels really low again he can contact the Campaign Against Living Miserably (thecalmzone.net, 0800 58 58 58) who will support him but you are not the person he should contact.

Take things slowly with your friend. You have recently come out of an abusive relationship and need time to recover.

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