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DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex cheated on me with a neighbour, and although I tried hard to forgive her, I eventually called time on our relationship.<\/p>\n

Now I\u2019m on the sofa and panicking over how I will make ends meet.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m 34, she\u2019s 32, and we have a gorgeous three-year-old daughter.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s been a terrible year. I was devastated to come home early one day and find a male neighbour on my sofa. My girlfriend said he\u2019d popped in to help her open the loft.<\/p>\n

But I could tell something underhand was going on by the shifty way he wouldn\u2019t look at me and left as quickly as he could.<\/p>\n

Eventually she admitted they had started having sex in our lounge while I was at work and our daughter was at nursery.<\/p>\n

Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team<\/h3>\n

Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.<\/p>\n

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She said it had only happened a couple of times because she was lonely and I worked too much.<\/p>\n

But months later, I discovered it had been going on for over a year. Soon after, one of her friends let slip she\u2019d had another fling months after our daughter was born.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve been together for 12 years but I decided enough was enough and called it a day for my own mental health. <\/p>\n

I don\u2019t hate her and we both want to stay friends. <\/p>\n

Financially we need to live together, and sometimes share a bed as our house is having building work done.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s difficult to still be living under the same roof. She doesn\u2019t seem to want to get the building work finished and is dragging it out.<\/p>\n

But I\u2019m stuck in limbo and just want to move on.<\/p>\n

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Should I give up my lover for my cheating husband and children's sake?<\/h3>\n

DEIDRE SAYS: You made the right decision to leave as your relationship was affecting your mental health.<\/p>\n

But sadly financial realities are holding you back. Your current situation is confusing for all, especially your daughter who will feel the tension between you. <\/p>\n

I\u2019m sending my support pack When Parents Fall Out which will help you to understand her feelings.<\/p>\n

As you are sure you want to split, you need to draw a line under your past relationship. It\u2019s time to make finishing the building work a priority, and find a plan so you can get on with your lives.<\/p>\n

Talking to someone, explained in my support pack on counselling, will also help you work out how to move forward.<\/p>\n

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