As a therapist there are three things I’m always dying to ask my clients… but I wouldn’t dare

• Jeff Guenther is a licensed counsellor and marriage expert
• He shared three questions he always wants to ask clients but never will
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A therapist has listed three questions he will never ask clients, despite how curious he is.

Jeff Guenther, a licensed counsellor with a masters in marriage and family therapy, wishes he could ask to see photos of the people clients talk about along with text message conversations. 

He’s also curious to know if clients have seen his profile appear on dating apps – but would rather they didn’t tell him.

The American better known ‘Therapy Jeff’ on TikTok regularly shares his advice with fans after working in crisis support and at his own private practice for years.

American therapist Jeff Guenther (pictured) shared three things he wants to ask his clients but never does 

3 things a therapist will not ask you but so badly wants to. #mentalhealth #therapy #therapytiktok #therapistsontiktok #therapysessions

‘Number one – show me a picture of the person you’re going on a date with. Will this impact the type of therapy I provide for you? No it won’t.. It could, but it shouldn’t,’ Jeff said in the video.

‘I want to see all the pictures of all the people that are in your life just based off of genuine curiosity.’

Next, Jeff is curious to know if he’s been spotted on dating apps. If so, he said he would be ‘humiliated’ and ‘can’t be your therapist anymore’.

‘So I don’t want to know, actually, do not tell me,’ he said.

Lastly, rather than paraphrasing texts, Jeff wishes his clients would read the messages out or hand him their phone to read. 

‘Give me your phone whenever you’re describing text messages from someone that you’re complaining about in a session,’ he said. 

‘I want to know every single word that was written – I don’t need a summary – but that feels very invasive.’

‘Number one – show me a picture of the person you’re going on a date with. Will this impact the type of therapy I provide for you? No it won’t.. It could, but it shouldn’t,’ Jeff said in the video (stock image)  

The short video has since exceeded more than 1.3million views and many said they would happily give their therapist this information if they asked.

‘I would LOVE to show my therapist the gossip like this,’ one wrote. 

‘I once made my therapist a PowerPoint of the people in my life and titled it ‘The Reasons I’m in Therapy and Other Honorable Mentions’,’ another said. 

‘Oh god. People summarise?? I make my poor therapist sit there and listen to me read them word for word with inflection,’ a third wrote in disbelief.  

Though another disagreed and wrote: ‘I will show you pictures but I NEVER give you my phone to read the text because obviously I need to paraphrase to make myself sound better.’

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